Updated: Apr 11, 2022
Dear Doc Rock,
I'm in a fairly new relationship and it seems that things are fantastic.
We get along very well, and always have a good time together. But my boyfriend is going through a few things from his past which could lead to him leaving for a little while.
I don't really know what I should do... should I stick by him while he goes through this time or if things progress should I let him go? I know that I care enough about him to stick by his side, every moment that passes by I just don't know if it's worth it at this stage in life.
He truly is someone I could imagine spending the rest of my life with, it just seems like his past is now catching up with him now that he's trying to make a better future... help!
Afraid of Letting Go
You have a big decision to make.
This is a new relationship for you so you're still in the stages where it would be wise for you to walk away but since you already have the feelings you do for this guy, it complicates things a little bit. Every action has a consequence, therefore whatever was done in the past is obviously going to affect what happens in the future. It's very admirable that you want to stick by him while he goes through this and it's equally awesome that he is trying to better himself now. What you may need to consider is, if he does in fact have to leave you, are you invested enough into this relationship that you would be able to wait around for him to come back? I'm sure there will be times when you feel very lonely; are you ready to handle that? Ultimately you need to decide if this is really what you want and if he really does suit all of your needs. Remember there are plenty of fish in the sea, if this one happens to swim away! Good Luck, Rock