Ask Doc Rock | It's Gettin' Hot in Here
Dear Doc Rock, I'm not even sure how to ask this question....
I LOVE sex... like on an everyday basis. When I try to initiate it with my boyfriend he goes along but gets off SO fast. Then has to find other ways to please me because his mini me has left the game. Is there any way to keep him from checking out so soon?!
Signed, Hot and Bothered
Dear Hot and Bothered,
I can't believe I'm going to say this but...GIVE IT A REST. Although there's nothing wrong with a healthy sex-life, his junk is probably over worked and just going through the motions... Kind of like a cashier at the super market!
..Anyway...If you're having sex everyday it can lose its magic and its thrill for some people. You should applaud him for making the effort to keep up with your overcharged sex-drive haha. Yeah I know, us guys get a bad rap for wanting sex all the time, but we aren't all the same! I think as hard as it may be (no pun intended) you may need to pump the brakes.
When you want to have at it again, start with a healthy session of foreplay. Make it interesting, don't get down to the deed right away.
Explore and you'll find what he likes (we like variety too! Surprise us!) and it's also a chance for him to find different ways to please you! It works out better for everyone.
Plus I've read numerous times if you abstain from sex for a while and you go at it less frequently, it becomes more pleasurable if you catch my drift! Now Go Take a Cold Shower,