Updated: Apr 11
Dear Doc. Rock,
Lately my boyfriend and I have been fighting a lot over the same thing. I hate it every time we fight because it's over something I do. I feel like I can't just stop doing it altogether, so do you think I should just hide it from him until I can stop doing it on my own?
Dear Closet Case,
I think hiding it from him is the most terrible idea. Trust is one of the most, if not THE MOST, important part of a relationship on both sides. You need to be able to trust him and he needs to be able to trust you.
What if you hid it from him and it came out somehow that you did it? That's grounds for ending a relationship. Trust is something that takes time to build, but a second to destroy and isn't ever as easy to get back. How do you think you would feel if you had to constantly be worried that hiding this from him could possibly end it all for you?
How much does he mean to you?
If I were you, you should evaluate what is more important in your life and go from there. If you feel that you truly can't stop whatever it is that is causing the fights, then you need to tell him and if he decides he can't put up with it then you shouldn't be together for the good of both of you.
Best of Luck,